I Don’t Want this Anymore

Paul Berggren
2 min readJul 13, 2022

It’s OK to stop chasing the wrong thing.

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My son has been chasing a dream since middle school. He wanted to be well-known and respected as someone with influence, power, and money. Problem is, the dream was being a gangsta on the streets. Something inside of him was drawn to the perceived thrill and lifestyle.

What he didn’t see is the pain, misery, isolation, and heartache that comes with that lifestyle. Now he’s back in jail for the third year in a row. Over the last couple years locked up most of the time, part of him still was attracted to reaching a little higher to get the respect of the street.

Not this time. “I finally achieved my goal,” He said recently, “but not in a good way. I don’t want this anymore.”

I’m glad he finally can say this. He’s now reached another level of crime that ends up in the news. That changes things on the street and can get risky with other inmates on the inside because of connections. He crossed a line and can’t go back.

But he doesn’t have to keep living this way. He’s made the choice to change and is already thinking and doing things differently.

It’s easy to see this gap in my son but I see it in myself too, although not as dramatically.

These last several months I’ve faced things I’ve tolerated that I honestly don’t want anymore.

  • I don’t want to sell stuff anymore.
  • I want to come alongside people and help them solve problems.
  • I don’t want to be well known and respected in my field.
  • I want to know people so well that I can respectfully help them do life changing work together.

My son inspires me to stop chasing the wrong thing and focus on life-giving things.

Is there something you don’t want anymore?

If you changed directions, could you start wanting something more fulfilling?

Life is a team sport. Help your team stop chasing the wrong things.



Paul Berggren

I help people listen and learn from each other. As President of Crown Global HR, I bring clarity to growing and hiring people.